wedding

Worst Best Man

There wasn’t much that went wrong during my wedding, if anything actually, it was almost perfect. If there is one thing I could change though, I would change my best man.

I chose my best man purely because we have been friends for such a long time, we are basically brothers. My parents basically raised him as one of their own cause he’s always been at my house for sleep overs and such. He’d spent entire holidays with us, we’d go on holidays together. We were pretty tight.

Recently though we’ve been taking different roads. We see life differently. We have different goals. We don’t have much in common. I stayed next door to him for almost 18 months but somehow we never really got to see each other, mainly because he worked the night shift and I worked a normal 9-5. But I would day this though, when we hung out, just me and him, we could chat for hours. That was always the cool thing.

At the wedding though, I had to warn him several times to not have any sex related stories in his speech cause my new father-in-law cannot stand it. My father-in-law would complain how pastors these days make sex jokes at weddings. We avoided a certain pastor just because of his jokes. So I beg and pleaded that my best man avoid the subject like the plague. He actually stuck to his word. Great! But he still managed to insult me, call me a pussy, a dry ass motherfucker.

Also I heard he wasn’t much help with planning the bachelors party. He was unavailable most of the time. My other friends called him the worst best man.

Yeah, not very cool if my best man. Our goals in life are not aligned anymore. I am happily married and he wishes to remain single and pursue his business dreams and try becoming a millionaire. I content with a comfortable life, financial independence and travelling to a couple of places on my bucket list.
So for those of you reading this and considering who to pick as your best man, just make sure you have a best man that can at least right a decent speech.

Still I appreciate what he has done for me. I still want him to be apart of my life even though I know there will be very little opportunities to hang out going forward.

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We are married!!!

Yup, its been a week since we got married and things are going great so far.
I don’t want to share everything in one post. Give a few details here and there.
The wedding was awesome. I thought I would be nervous but I wasn’t at all. Everything went smoothly except for the rain. We had an outside wedding. Meaning the ceremony and the reception was outside. We had a tent for the ceremony and the reception was in a round building with a big hole in the middle. Our table was supposed to be in the middle but it had to be moved once the rain started.
I wasn’t too worried about the rain, I was enjoying myself too much but my beautiful bride wasn’t so calm. She was worried about the guests disappearing as well as our wedding party. But everything worked out for the best and I think all of our guests had a great time. We’ve only heard good things about the wedding. We received a lot of compliments and lots of gifts too.
My wife and I had an amazing honeymoon and things are very rosey thus far… except for yesterday. More on that tomorrow.

Until next time. Thanks for reading.

Frustration

We are getting very close to the end and with each passing hour my fiancé is just getting more and more frustrating.

Late last night she tried to call me. I was in the living room watching TV and my phone was on charge and the washing machine was making noise as well. So I couldn’t hear my phone ring. When I got up to just check on it, to my surprise I saw 3 missed calls from my fiancé.

I knew I was in trouble because just last week Thursday I had a very bad day at work and also left my phone to charge in the bedroom while I went out to get pizza. She was very upset that day but I did the right thing and apologized at least 10 times even though I was having a terrible day and was just looking to catch a break.

Fast forward back to last night and I started apologising again. She was upset at first and wouldn’t really say why she called but I did manage to force it out of her. She found a scripture that the pastor should read when he is giving his surdom at the church. I read the scripture over the phone and told her I liked it. She seemed to calm down and confessed that the wedding planning is getting to her and bringing her down.

Today I told her that there is no point to go to the wedding venue for the rehearsal if the pastor isn’t there cause he was supposed to tell us what to do and how to do it. The venue is 38 km (about 24 miles) outside of town. She didn’t see it my way and got upset with. At this point I just felt it’s a waste of money to drive all the way there and was having none of it. She again confessed that she is getting frustrated and apologized.

This time I just ignored. I know I’m wrong and I’m supposed to support her and be there for her, but I just had enough. I’m gonna smoke a blunt and relax. Fuck the frustration.

Edit:
This post didn’t upload when I hit the post button. So after I smoked a doobie I was much more relaxed and started chatting to Ms O. She visited one of her friends who recently got a baby. Her friend can’t make the wedding this weekend so she gave Ms O our wedding gift. Ms O opened it yesterday, I said it was cool if she wanted to open it. We got cooking bowls and kitchen stuff. It’s kinda cool.

Until next time. Thanks for reading.

Wedding meltdown

I feel bad for Ms. O. She’s been planning this wedding all on her own for the past 9 months while I was studying and attending lectures. Now that the wedding is only two weeks away, things are supposed to get easier after all the hard work she has put in. But no, today was the breaking point.

The problem started with her aunt’s accommodation at the wedding venue. There was some sort of issue and Ms O’s aunt called her in tears that she can’t get accommodation and and and. Ms O had to sort this out with the people renting out the venue. There was some sort of technicality but they could forego it. The lessors took this opportunity to remind her of the outstanding bill we had to settle in full last week but we’ve agreed to an extended deadline.

Now because they are doing this favor for us by foregoing the technicality, they seem to be retracting the extended deadline. This brought Ms O close to tears.

She came over to my office during lunch. The first thing I did when I saw her was give her a nice warm hug, even before I knew about the events that have unfolded that morning.

We had some Pringles and soft drinks, she had no appetite, and just talked it over. I listened. At first she was hesitant to tell me cause she thought I would get upset. I don’t like the lessors. I didn’t like them from the start but my fiancé loved the venue so I just went with it. Actually just going with it is incorrect. I reminded her every time of my dislike toward these leaches each time they did something to upset her.

Eventually she spilled the beans of what happened and I fought every urge to say anything negative and just listened to her and tried to make her feel better.

After lunch she thanked me and said that I took her mind off the wedding and made her feel much better. I’m kind of proud of myself. I was being a supportive husband to be.

Tomorrow she doesn’t want to hear a word about the wedding. Fingers crossed we actually go a whole day without speaking about the big day. We checking out Mocking Jay part 2 tomorrow. That might help.

Until next time. Thanks for reading.

My first paid freelance job

2015 has been full of surprises and hard work. Never have I thought that I would have to put in so much work this year. I had a faint idea but this year seems like my mind and body has been running at full capacity.

The good thing though is that I got my first paid web development project. The payment wasn’t much because I didn’t have an awful lot to do. Usually when I took on a project like this in the past (pro bono) I would come up with lots of things to do to make the website perfect. It never worked out as imagined but I still got the job done. With limited time everyday because of work and studies and my customers pushing a very tight deadline, I decided to keep it as simple as possible. Simplicity work. I got the job done and I got paid for my efforts. Hopefully more work would be coming in.

Update on other areas of my life. Cooking a lot of food and packing it for the week really works. I definitely see the benefits. Not only does it save me time but also it saves me money. The problem is that I get tired of eating the same thing and that some weeks my schedule is so hectic that I don’t have the time to cook. I will try my best and try different recipes. Just need to stick to a set cooking schedule.

Wedding planning is a motherf’er. We finally set on a date, 5 December, 2 days after my 26th birthday. We finally set on a venue, paid the deposit but it’s very expensive. We blew the budget already though. Our parents love the venue so they won’t listen to the voice of reason. They will be covering most of the wedding costs so I shouldn’t be bothered yet it still does. My fiancé will be handling most of the wedding planning. I will concentrate on my studies. Hope she can cope.

Cutting the cost of food

Food is one of my biggest expenses after rent. When I pay all my bills at the end of the month, the only money I have left in my bank account is for food and for transportation. And since I am a part-time student now there is no time for cooking. I walked into the grocery store today, like every other weekday planning to grab me something eat that has already been cooked and I realized that this can no longer continue be done. I needed to change.

My main excuse is that I do not have time at night to cook food for the week. Even if I do cook something on a Sunday, I will end up getting sick of eating the same thing every night plus I am at my girlfriend’s house on a Sunday. Today though I just decided to hell with it and grabbed some ground beef. My classes end at 9:30PM. I got home started cooking rice and ground beef and put them in 3 containers for the week (I don’t have class on a Friday). The ground beef only cost me N$20 (US$0.20/kg). I am not going to convert to pounds. It’s late and I want to go to bed. Use Google.

I just added a can of mixed vegetables which I had at home. I hope this will help. I usually spend about N$40 per night (US$4) on food just for dinners. I take a sandwich to work for lunch and have cereal in the morning. In total I spend about N$150/week (US$15) on breakfast and lunch, but only for weekdays.

Friday nights can get a bit expensive because this is when my girlfriend fiance comes over to spend the night with me. We don’t see each other during the week so we have to make the most of the weekends. I usually I start a fire and make a BBQ on a Friday and that could cost me about N$150 just for that night. I would spend around the same amount if we go out somewhere to eat like Nandos or KFC.

Saturdays I rarely eat at home and I go over to her place where her parents usually cook a meal for the family. There I can save some money but usually I feel so bad about eating for free there (and since the in-laws don’t join us on Friday nights) I usually pay for anything extra we need to get from the grocery store. Sundays I also eat at her house or sometimes I would make myself a nice Sunday roast.

I am really trying to cut my food cost on cooking at home and bringing a sandwich from but I can quickly get tired of the food I repeatedly make. I need a variety and I also need food that is easy to make. So I hope in the future I can post some easy to make, cheap recipes here. I’ve joined Pinterest so hopefully that will help too.

*WEDDING UPDATE*

The venue we really liked could cost up to N$200k for 250 guests which is way out of our budget. We are hoping to spend N$100k in total for the wedding. We are starting to look at other venues but it looks like we might have to give up on that venue and our idea of an outside/garden wedding.

Until next time. Do the right thing.